I came out of a long-term four-year relationship about 6 months ago. During the relationship, I made some mistakes – always putting my partner first over my needs and accepting his bad behavior (numerous times cheating on me, lying to me, diminishing my self-worth) I told my friends that I wanted to give the relationship […]
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After over a decade of doing this, I know when to tread lightly on certain subjects and sexual assault is one of them. I wrote an article about the MeToo Movement that was widely shared and was invited to appear on a CNN Town Hall, which I declined to attend because there’s no reward in […]
A month ago, I shared Andrew Sullivan’s take on this Peggy Orenstein article, The Miseducation of the American Boy. Subtitle “Why boys crack up at rape jokes, think having a girlfriend is “gay,” and still can’t cry—and why we need to give them new and better models of masculinity.” As if that’s the sum total […]
I have been seeing a man I like and it’s getting serious. Then I encountered a vlog by a married woman saying you shouldn’t have any secrets between spouses and the disclosure should happen long before engagement. What’s your opinion on this, Evan? Should spouses have no secrets? What sort of things do you think […]
When my wife’s first husband cheated on her, her mantra was “Everybody cheats, nobody’s happy.” That’s not true, but if you have a faulty man-picker and surround yourself with similar friends, it may be hard to believe. Misery loves company. There’s a big difference between a drunken kiss and a full-blown affair where you’re leading […]
I started dating a guy, John, last year who had a bad reputation for being a creep. I had just divorced my husband of 16 years and was out on my own for the first time in my life (had a kid and married at 17) so I’d like to say I was not exactly […]
Mostly (single) people read this blog. And yet, I’m always surprised when those who have voluntarily found their way here because they were looking for dating and relationship advice insist that not only do they have it all figured out but they would rather be single than in a relationship. It’s like going to the […]
I’ve been dating this guy since New Years so just a month now. It’s going really well. I don’t normally believe in soul mates but I feel like we’re connected in such a different way than I’ve experienced before. So he got out a 3 year relationship in October, and from the start of us […]
I am a professional at rejection and failure. That is no joke. If I’m ever allowed to leave the house again, I’m going to give corporate speeches on this very subject. I was a virgin until college. I wrote a dozen screenplays and fifteen sitcoms and made less than $10,000 in my Hollywood writing career. […]
Hey Evan. I have had a pattern of being attracted to emotionally ‘broken’ or emotionally unavailable men. I thought I was over this since doing counselling but I’m still drawn to this type of man. Worst yet I pull away once I feel a love interest is getting too close. How can I break this […]